Hiatus Much?

Well I’m a crappy blogger, am I! To be honest, I probably have the same excuse for the many projects I have started in the past, whether that is past blogs, a YouTube channel, side projects, and sadly, sometimes life goals. I’m not going to admit that life really does get in the way of my focus and unexpected things come up, but I also know that if I’m superbly lazy and sometimes would enjoy just plainly not doing anything.

And of course, the busy itch always returns.

Since my last post, the school year had ended and summer classes came and went. Within those times, I worked, went to meetings, made decisions for next school year, and dreamt what this summer would look like. I don’t know how many times I created a list and wish-goaled that these were the things I was going to do, and again, if I’m being honest with myself, I probably won’t do more than three of those things. So I thought to myself, why make things complicated and just do three goals this summer? Why not!

The biggest goal I really want to focus on this summer (and for the rest of the year) is health. Yes, the goal that everyone has during the new year, but somehow I’m doing it now. I probably did have this goal at the beginning of the year and once more, probably didn’t stick to it. There are really two main things I know I would like to work on: 1) daily exercise and 2) healthy food choices. Planning is the easy part of this goal and the commitment part, the get-up-and-go-do-what-you-wrote-down-what-you’re-going-to-do part, is the tough one. Hopefully to keep me accountable for these goals, my third focus may help in tracking and making sure that I am doing what I planned to do: 3) blogging.

Daily exercise. Healthy food choices. And blogging. So how will these look like?

For daily exercise, I hope to get 30 minutes of being physically active. I’m still deciding on the schedule, but I’m looking at 30 minutes of cardio, not including the strength training or yoga. For healthy food choices, I would like to commit to making one new dish each week and making one new design of bento box each week. Maybe some of my creativity can leak into those two things. And to track all of these things? Blog! Hopefully once a week, two the best. Hopefully you, as my reader, can help me be accountable about this.

Well, I’ll be planning tomorrow and this weekend. I’m starting next week so let’s see what we can do about my life for the rest of summer!

My Understanding of Success

Success is such a loaded word and concept. In all points in our lives, the yearning to be successful crossed your mind, and for many of you, probably more times that you could count in a day. Yeah, that’s a right. A day! There is a huge pressure riding on you because that is what everyone expects from you: society, family, peers, significant other, yourself, and who knows who else!

I work with students and some of these students have shared their visions of their future in hoping to accomplish something bigger than they can imagine. Some shared that they want to a stable job that will keep the money flowing. Some say that once they start paying their dues back to the people that have helped them is what they want to focus on. There are countless ideas of how others want for their future, and most of these have to deal with success. And who doesn’t want to be successful? It’s satisfying to feel that you have done something that others admire you for. Bragging rights? Sure. I’ve met people who do it.

However, the essence of success does not come with an instructional guide, nor is it a cookie cutter process for everyone. We all have to journey in our own way to find what success truly means in our lives. I must admit that I have compared how my success should look like from others, one in particular, and that is my sister. Being only the two of us and also the younger, the comparing and one-upping was a very serious matter – at least to me it was. I saw that the treatment I got from my parents, family members, and people we knew was very different from how they treated my sister. The doting was present from my grandparents, the grades expectations were clear, the looks and figures were highlighted, the gifts were one-sided, the privileges were somewhat unfair, the response to chosen careers were not equal . . . I can list many things.

I only came to the realization very recently that comparing my life accomplishments to my sister is something that will never be changed. The reason being is one simple thing: I am not her. We have so many differences and it’s one of the reasons why our lives should not be the same. I’ve always thought that I have accepted out differences long before my high school years, but it did not hit me full on until starting my masters program that I’m not meant to live a life like hers. I’m supposed to live mine. I’m not supposed to be treated the way that she is being treated because others see me differently and my passions are different from hers. The load off my chest from that acceptance was like a submarine finally emerging from the cloud of murky waters, and the years I’ve spent in grad school were some of the best years of my life because of this concept.

Now, success is still something I’m trying to pursue, and if I’m honest, I still compare myself to my sister every once in a while. Sure it gets me down, but not for too long. My understanding of success is our own making because no one else is going to truly benefit from the fruits of your own labor but yourself. I also think that success is the journey you were or are willing to take to get from before to wherever, because every day you are making an effort to change and improve your life by taking the chance to move forward. The results of those steps will come eventually, and still, we continue to push through to your next adventure, your next goal, your next mile. So enjoy your journey of success. You’re already a lot farther than where you were yesterday.

Thanks for stopping by, friend! I’ll see you soon!

See you next year, spring break.

I work for a college and one of the privilege of working for an educational institution is getting breaks just like the students. I look forward to this breaks just as much as the students do because the stress that builds up within the school year can be quite overwhelming. Mind you, I love my job and I love what I do. However, as an introvert, working and constant interaction with people is very draining. I’d like to say that the weekends gave me enough time to energize but I would be lying because I have commitments with church, music groups, and friends. Not to mention, being a wife alone keeps me on my feet all the time.

Spring break has come and gone and I ponder upon the highlights of my break, hopefully to give me some spirit to finish the rest of the school year strong:

  • Started this blog. Hooray!
  • Figured the lining for the church bulletin to finally align. Still need to figure out the PDF download process though.
  • Finished KH 2.8!
  • Watched “Logan” and “The Shack”.
  • Worked out for 5 days in a row! Yay!
  • Took some students shopping.
  • URB-E-ed around downtown.

The list is short, but I’m proud of my few accomplishments this week. As much as I wish that I had done more, I’m just relieved that I got a week filled withed many opportunities to rest. Here’s to for the rest of the school semester! Bracing myself for the long stretch.

Thanks for stopping by, friend! I’ll see you soon.